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Tuesday, April 3, 2018

Conception via Anonymous Semen: An Aberration?

There is a scriptural account in Genesis 38:9 of a man who had sexual intercourse but spilled his semen on the floor, wasting it and lost his life for that. He sought to have intercourse for the fun of it while avoiding attendant responsibility for procreation.

In other words, he enjoyed the pleasures of the sexual act but while seeking to avoid its procreative function, he spilled his semen in an unauthorized location thereby incurring the wrath of the Creator.
If a man could be killed for spilling his semen on the floor while having authorized and lawful sexual intercourse, how is his crime different from another man who spills his semen into a condom to be wasted?

Semen is sacred.

Semen contains life and is the instrument for procreation and multiplication of the human race. The natural destination of the semen is the female vagina and spilling it willfully, in unlawful destinations makes it an aberration.

The condom campaign encourages and promotes sexual immorality and irresponsibility among the unmarried for whom premarital sexual intercourse is a sin. The condom campaign tells them that if they cannot abstain from sex and cannot exercise self-control over their sexual desires, they should use condoms to practice safe sex whereby they can enjoy the pleasures of sex while avoiding responsibility for procreation.

In this view, the condom encourages immorality.

Same is applicable to the married class. The condom encourages a married spouse to seek for sexual pleasure outside his marriage having an assurance that the condom protects him against diseases and responsibility for possible procreation.

Sexual immorality breeds sexual diseases and marriage is the avenue to avoid the sexual immorality that breeds sexual diseases. Every man is to have his own wife and every woman is to have her own husband and every spouse should stick to his or her lawful partner for sexual purposes.

Endorsing the condom is endorsing sin and immorality. The Scriptures say that it is better to marry than to burn with sexual desires, if one cannot endure temptation. Until one is lawfully married, he is to flee fornication.Therefore, for the unmarried, premarital sex is an unlawful activity. Spilling the semen into a condom is another illegality and two wrongs do not make a right.

Rather than use a condom to practice a deceptive safe sex which looks like a safe sin, one should get married and have lawful sex within marriage. If he is not ready for lawful marriage, he is to avoid sex…as simple as ABC!

Society endorses the condom as being useful for birth control purposes. The natural family planning based on fertile and infertile days is the natural avenue for birth control and should be promoted.
There are some female contraceptives which actually terminate a life that has already been formed, and do not prevent any conception.

Science has proved that fertilization can occur within 3 days and at the point of fertilization, a zygote is created which is a new individual and a living being. It is after the zygote has been formed that some female contraceptives work to terminate the new life already created and that is pure murder…no more, no less! There are no safe sins.

The worldly concepts of safe sex which is a deception and encourages sexual irresponsibility and murder in some cases should be discouraged. Some governments have progressed from promoting safe sex through contraceptives to legalizing abortions. One sin always leads to another worse sin.

If it is a sacrilege to spill one’s semen on the floor, is it not also a sacrilege to spill one’s semen into the mouth of a woman, known as oral sex and a product of a sick mind?

If it is a sacrilege to spill one’s semen on the floor, is it not also a sacrilege to spill one’s semen into the anus of another, known as anal sex and an indication of a sick head and a reprobate?

If it is a sacrilege to spill sacred semen on the floor, does that not make masturbation or self-sex and other sexual perversions abominable sexual practices which indicate depravity?

Recently online was a discussion about an unmarried woman who became pregnant through an anonymous semen donor and was suspended by her church. Questions were asked whether the church was right or wrong.

In God’s Word, marriage is the institution ordained for procreation. Marriage comes first before sexual intercourse and pregnancy. Therefore, pregnancy without marriage or pregnancy before marriage is an aberration. Where an unmarried woman becomes pregnant without lawful marriage, it is known as fornication and an unlawful conception.

Where an unmarried woman becomes pregnant through an anonymous semen donor, it is an abnormal conception. The IVF technology is not condemned here. The IVF technology is one of the many modern day inventions that resulted from the increase in knowledge and travels predicted in Daniel 12:4.

The IVF technology enhances conception in a woman who cannot conceive naturally through sex by fertilizing the woman’s egg with the man’s semen outside her body and planting it in her womb to grow to maturity. But the semen that was used for the fertilization must belong to a man whom she was lawfully married to. Where this is not so, that is an abnormal process contrary to the Word of God.

If she was married but became pregnant through anonymous semen donor, it is still an abnormality if the semen that was used for the fertilization did not belong to her lawful husband.If one’s wife is impregnated by another man’s semen through normal sexual intercourse between her and the other man, is that not an adulterous conception? Would any sensible lawful husband accept that?

Where an unmarried woman who is a member of a church appears with a pregnancy through an anonymous semen donor and without lawful marriage to the owner of the semen, it is an aberration the church must not accept.

To accept it is to encourage a dangerous trend where women bypass marriage and become mothers through some abominable process of conception. We are in the Last Days where women want to have nothing to do with the institution of marriage yet want to have children without a known father claiming paternity.

Women do not want to recognize the headship of a husband and do not want to submit to the authority of the husband and become a good wife. Women are becoming rebellious and headstrong and are becoming mothers without formal marriage calling themselves Single Mothers...another aberration!

It is not all the modern day inventions that are beneficial to man and not all that conform to the will of God for man. Some are useful and beneficial to God and man while some are destructive and work against the will of God for man.

For example, a technology which encourages the termination and abortion of pregnancies already formed in the womb negates the will of God for man to multiply and replenish the earth.

Ayodele Adegbukugbe
Lagos, Nigeria.

Monday, May 29, 2017

How to Have Holy Sex



How to Have Holy Sex

There is an aggressive rage of the demons of sexual perversions ravaging the world today particularly Christendom and polluting the minds of men including Christians who should be a light radiating into the dark world (Matthew 5:14).

The sexual demons are luring men into sexual abominations that desecrate the sacredness of God’s holy orders – marriage and sex – which He created to propagate and multiply the human race.

The sexual abomination that occurred in Genesis 6:4 was one of the major reasons God took the decision to destroy the world of Noah. God took the same stand in Sodom and Gomorrah in Genesis Chapter 19 where sexual abominations were the order of the day in that society. 

In our present world, unholy and ungodly sexual activities are rampant and being shamelessly celebrated. Fathers are having sex with their daughters and mothers too are doing same with their sons. Men are marrying men and women too are marrying women.

 All kinds of horrible, disgusting, demon inspired sexual perversions are occurring and even in marriage, many couples engage in sexual perverse activities contrary to the Word of the Lord. 

Sexual intercourse was created and ordained by God in Genesis 2:24 that say a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife and they shall become one flesh. The sexual union makes a man and his wife become one flesh.

Sex is a wonderful experience in marriage (Proverbs 5:18-19). Verse 18 in these scriptures says ‘let thy fountain be blessed and rejoice with the wife of thy youth’ and verse 19 says ‘let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe and let her breasts satisfy thee at all times and be thou ravished with her love.’ 

These scriptures indicate that in sexual terms, a man should be satisfied with his wife only (Proverbs 5:20).

Sex was created for marriage between a man and a woman in lawful wedlock. The marriage is a lawful wedlock where parental consent was obtained and where dowry/bride price was paid where the culture requests for it (Genesis 24).

Cohabiting with a woman in the name of a marriage without her parental consent and payment of dowry/bride price where applicable is an unlawful wedlock. Anything done in an unlawful wedlock is illegal and unholy.

The ‘husband’ in such unlawful wedlock is a thief in the eyes of the Lord who must do necessary restitution to convert his unlawful union to a lawful wedlock recognized by the Word of the Lord God.

Any sex conducted before a man or woman marries known as premarital sex is ungodly and unholy and is also known as fornication, a sin before the Lord God. Likewise, any sexual intercourse between a married person with another person besides his lawful spouse, constitutes an ungodly and unholy intercourse known as adultery (Exodus 20:14).

Marriage was created for one man and one woman because God created one Eve for one Adam and the Bible says that two shall become one. Therefore, marriage is monogamous for life as long as the partners live, being bound to each other for life (Romans 7:3) (1 Corinthians 7:39). 

Lawful sexual intercourse is that conducted between the man and only his lawful spouse. Having a lover (girlfriend, mistress or a concubine) besides one’s lawful wife is unlawful and any sexual intercourse with such lovers in ungodly.

Likewise, for the wife to have a lover (man friend, boyfriend or whatever appellation) besides her lawful husband, is ungodly and any sexual intercourse with such lovers is unholy as well.

Adultery is unholy sexual intercourse and the command in Exodus 20:14 that prohibit it uphold the sacredness of marriage and the divine appointment of marriage.

Where a wife separates from her husband on grounds not allowed in the Scriptures, she is to remain unmarried for the rest of her life or else be reconciled to her lawful husband (1 Corinthians 7:10-11). Divorces and remarriages are generally not allowed for every cause in the Scriptures (Malachi 2:14-16) (Matthew 5:32) (1 Corinthians 7:10-11).

Where a wife separates unlawfully from her lawful husband and ‘marries’ another man or cohabits with another man, it is an adultery and any sexual intercourse in that arrangement is ungodly and unholy as well.

1 Corinthians 7:5 says that husbands and wives in lawful wedlock must respect each other regarding lawful sexual needs, to pay the matrimonial debt and render the conjugal duty to each other, mutually satisfying each other.

According to the same scripture (1 Corinthians 7:5), husbands and wives belong to each other and neither has any authority to refuse what the other needs or demands in a normal temperate relationship. All acts of perversion or unnatural affection – oral sex, anal sex, menstrual sex, masturbation, vibrator sex etc. – must be rejected.

By the same verses, a couple may by mutual consent and for an agreed time abstain from sexual intercourse for purposes of prayer and fasting and come together again in order not to fall into sexual sin.

Self-control must be exercised in sexual activities between husbands and wives (1 Corinthians 6:12). Self-control is essential to holy living (Galatians 5:22). 1 Corinthians 5:22 says ‘all things are lawful unto me but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful unto me but I will not be brought under the power of any.’’

This means that we should not allow anything (sex included), to control us or to have authority over us. The Bible also teaches about moderation in appetites and passions.

I wish to make a digression:

In an online relationship forum, someone asked a question that if on a Sunday morning, a wife is fully dressed and ready to leave for church, her husband has a sexual urge and wants sex, should the wife undress for sex and go to church late?

Most of the respondents said that they would undress and have the sex first and go to church late or not go at all, that the sexual desire must first be fully satisfied before attending to church. I disagree with their position on several grounds as follows:

§  First, it constitutes an abuse of God’s time. Ecclesiastes 3:1-10 says there is a time for everything. A focused Christian who values the essence of attending church would not allow anything to hinder him from going to church or to get there late. The sex should wait until after the church service. God says in 1 Samuel 2:30 that He would despise anyone who despises Him.

§  Secondly, it constitutes a dishonor for God and a lack of fear of Him and a fear for man above God (Matthew 10:28). Assume it was a working day that the wife is fully dressed and ready to leave for her work place that her husband develops an urge; would she undress for sex and end up getting to her place of work late or not going at all? 

If the husband is fully dressed and ready to leave for work and develops a sexual urge, would he stay behind to first have sex and get to his place of work late?  Are we fearing and honoring our earthly employer’s time above God and God’s time? 

Dishonoring God and fearing men above God was King Saul’s blunder in 1 Samuel 15:24 that caused God to reject him as King.

§  Thirdly, it indicates despising spiritual things and gratifying the flesh above the things of the Spirit which was Esau’s blunder in Genesis 25:29-34 that ruined his destiny.

§  Fourthly, such a Christian who has sex at the time he should be in Church is a carnal Christian who cannot please the Lord (Romans Ch.8). Sex is a natural and carnal desire that is not sinful in itself but when it is conducted in ways that violates other laws of God, it becomes sinful carnality.

The above violations are attributed to a lack of self-control (1 Corinthians 6:12-13). Self-control must be exercised to disallow anything fleshly from ruling over us, dominating or controlling us. Abuse of sex or any of the other passions through lack of self-control can ruin one’s destiny.

Holiness is required in the use of sex in lawful marriage (Hebrews 13:4) (1 Thessalonians 4:2-8). We are to abstain from sexual sins and to possess our bodies in sanctification and honor.

When a husband honours his own body and that of his wife as vessels of honour unto God, he will not abuse his body and hers in sexual terms and will not defile his matrimony.

The body of man is the temple of God to be kept holy. God vows to destroy anyone who abuses and defiles His temple which the body of man is (Romans 12:1-2) (1 Corinthians 3:16-17) (1 Corinthians 6:20).

Excessive sexual lusting and vile passions that includes the sexual perverse activities and ungodly sex styles and positions are dishonorable practice. These constitute heathen practices and those that engage in them are worthy of death and hell (Romans Chapter 1).

God forces no one to believe Him or to abide by His Word because man is a free moral agent. But His Word in Revelations 21:8 says that the immoral and the abominable shall have their part in the Lake of Fire that burns with brimstone.

May we not go from church to hell in Jesus name. Amen

Ayodele John Adegbulugbe
www.xtianrace.blogspot.com.ng
Lagos, Nigeria


Monday, May 22, 2017

Are You Married to a Pastor?



Are You Married to a Pastor?

The home front is a Pastor’s real calling. Some people are not created or designed for marriage though the Bible does not disallow marriage. Persons like Paul and Elijah were not married.

Once a pastor is married, his home front becomes his real calling because a bad marriage can affect his calling. A poor marriage leads to a poor ministry and a great marriage leads to a great ministry.

If a Pastor cannot convert his wife, he is a failure in ministry who has converted nobody. Therefore, the first identity of a Pastor is a good home and marriage. No matter the level of his anointing, a Pastor is nothing who does not have a good marriage and scripturally, such is not permitted to be a Pastor (1 Timothy 3:15) (Titus 1:5-9) (1 Peter 5:1-8).

A Pastor is not qualified to be one if his marriage is not measuring up to God’s standards. His ministry cannot grow beyond his marriage and his marriage is a picture of his character.

Many Pastors’ marriages are in total mess and disarray. There are many pastors divorcing their wives and remarrying others. There are many pastors who have girlfriends, mistresses and concubines which is very sad and bad of a Pastor. Many Pastors’ wives regret marrying a Pastor Husband.

A Pastor must balance his ministry and marriage and not to operate one to the detriment of the other. He must develop an uncommon love for his wife. He must honor his wife publicly and appreciate her little contributions, encouraging her to do more. Some Pastors are ashamed of their wives or being seen with them.

A pastor should involve his wife in his ministry and not allow her to become idle because an idle hand is the devil’s work tool. A pastor should not be his wife’s husband only but also be his wife’s pastor taking care of her spiritual life too.

A Pastor must satisfy his wife in the bedroom and should give adequate attention to romance and foreplay to get her into sexual readiness before the sexual act. Many pastors are a total disaster on the romantic front. He should also understand her body signals and her moods.

A pastor should always listen to his wife, give her undiluted attention when she is talking and allow her to air her views. The Pastor should create interest in everything that concerns her – business, children, ministry, health, whatever and everything.

A Pastor should set and get his priorities rightly. The order is God first, wife and children taking second place and the ministry coming third place. A Pastor is not yet successful who is not a successful husband.

A pastor should play with his wife and children and be available for them. Many Pastors run from church to mountain to crusade to retreat having no time for their family. 

Result of a research indicates that 75% of Pastors’ wives are unhappy and 65% wish they married someone else in another profession. Many Pastors’ wives suffer silently because there is no one to talk to and find solace in their children because their husband is not always available. Some Pastors’ wives will not allow their daughters to marry a Pastor.

Married male and female Pastors , are you listening? Make amendments on the home front because you have no ministry where you have no good marriage. 

He who has ears to hear, let him hear!
Ayodele Adegbulugbe
www.xtianrace.blogspot.com
www.maritalsuccessresource.simplesite.com