Are You
Married to a Pastor?
The home
front is a Pastor’s real calling. Some people are not created or designed for
marriage though the Bible does not disallow marriage. Persons like Paul and
Elijah were not married.
Once a
pastor is married, his home front becomes his real calling because a bad
marriage can affect his calling. A poor marriage leads to a poor ministry and a
great marriage leads to a great ministry.
If a Pastor
cannot convert his wife, he is a failure in ministry who has converted nobody.
Therefore, the first identity of a Pastor is a good home and marriage. No
matter the level of his anointing, a Pastor is nothing who does not have a good
marriage and scripturally, such is not permitted to be a Pastor (1 Timothy
3:15) (Titus 1:5-9) (1 Peter 5:1-8).
A Pastor is
not qualified to be one if his marriage is not measuring up to God’s standards.
His ministry cannot grow beyond his marriage and his marriage is a picture of
his character.
Many
Pastors’ marriages are in total mess and disarray. There are many pastors
divorcing their wives and remarrying others. There are many pastors who have
girlfriends, mistresses and concubines which is very sad and bad of a Pastor.
Many Pastors’ wives regret marrying a Pastor Husband.
A Pastor
must balance his ministry and marriage and not to operate one to the detriment
of the other. He must develop an uncommon love for his wife. He must honor his
wife publicly and appreciate her little contributions, encouraging her to do
more. Some Pastors are ashamed of their wives or being seen with them.
A pastor
should involve his wife in his ministry and not allow her to become idle
because an idle hand is the devil’s work tool. A pastor should not be his
wife’s husband only but also be his wife’s pastor taking care of her spiritual
life too.
A Pastor
must satisfy his wife in the bedroom and should give adequate attention to
romance and foreplay to get her into sexual readiness before the sexual act. Many
pastors are a total disaster on the romantic front. He should also understand her body signals and her moods.
A pastor
should always listen to his wife, give her undiluted attention when she is
talking and allow her to air her views. The Pastor should create interest in
everything that concerns her – business, children, ministry, health, whatever
and everything.
A Pastor
should set and get his priorities rightly. The order is God first, wife and
children taking second place and the ministry coming third place. A Pastor is
not yet successful who is not a successful husband.
A pastor
should play with his wife and children and be available for them. Many Pastors
run from church to mountain to crusade to retreat having no time for their
family.
Result of a
research indicates that 75% of Pastors’ wives are unhappy and 65% wish they married
someone else in another profession. Many Pastors’ wives suffer silently because
there is no one to talk to and find solace in their children because their
husband is not always available. Some Pastors’ wives will not allow their
daughters to marry a Pastor.
Married male
and female Pastors , are you listening? Make amendments on the home front
because you have no ministry where you have no good marriage.
He who has
ears to hear, let him hear!
Ayodele Adegbulugbe
www.xtianrace.blogspot.com
www.maritalsuccessresource.simplesite.com
www.xtianrace.blogspot.com
www.maritalsuccessresource.simplesite.com
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